The internet sure is a wonderful thing – it lets us learn new things, listen to music, watch movies and shows, read books, express ourselves, etc. One of its best traits, however, is allowing us to meet people online without ever having to leave the comfort of our home.
It doesn’t have to be free dating online for it to be considered as a way to meet people on the web. There are sites that let you find new and exciting individuals that simply share your interests and want to tell their story to someone they didn’t have the pleasure of meeting in person. With that in mind, here are the top 3 ways of breaking the ice while meeting people online.
1. The Classic
When it comes to initiating contact with a total stranger on the internet, the large majority of people will go for the good, ol’ classic approach of noticing something particular about the person they’re contacting and mentioning it in a positive way.
For example, you’re on a pen pal website and you’ve found a person that likes hiking just as much as you do. In most cases, the best way to break the ice is to say something like “Hi there! I see that you love hiking and I was wondering if you’ve ever climbed [insert your favorite hiking trail here], because I absolutely loved it there!”
2. The Joke
They say humor is the best ice-breaking method in the world, which has proven to be true a multitude of times. You can use this to your advantage if you’re the funny man among your friends, because nothing ensures quality conversation like a good joke.
This works similarly to the classic approach. You check out someone’s profile, you find something very specific and interesting, and once you send that first message, use it as a part of a joke – with a positive connotation, of course.
3. The Straight-Up
If you’re not particularly creative, you can always go for the straightforward method and admit as to why you’ve contacted the person you’re talking to.
Let’s be real here: none of us will ever try to establish a connection with someone if we know that they’re into something that bothers us or that’s simply not our thing. If you’ve realized that you want to contact someone, it’s because you’re seeing something you like.
The best way to be straightforward is to mention the very thing that pushed you into sending a message in the first place. If you’ve seen that this individual likes reading H.P. Lovecraft and you’re a big fan of the Cthulhu Mythos, simply say “Hi! I see that you like Lovecraft’s work, as do I. I just wanted to share my thoughts on that with you.”
Also, don’t think that liking someone’s profile photo is not reason enough to go with the same tactic. “I think you’re cute/beautiful/stunning and I wanted to meet you. Wanna chat?” – this is just one version of how the conversation might go in this case.